My (now-ex) husband and I went to a marriage counselor who later became my individual therapist. My husband felt very threatened by the idea of me being in therapy, told me repeatedly that I was being brainwashed, etc.

I ended up divorcing him, after nearly 15 years of marriage - and for quite some time afterwards, he made comments, told me that therapy ruined me - ruined us - and, on occasion, made threats. It was quite ugly.

As much as it hurt to hear how he reacted to me being in therapy, I can't imagine keeping it from him.