When I first started therapy, I told my spouse I was going to go to therapy and he said he would too. I was very hurt by things in the marriage and didn't know what to do or where to turn. So we both said we would get professional help. He ended up not going to therapy and I did. He never expressed interest in my therapy or inquired about how it was going or even if I was going, so I didn't bring it up. But he was told at the outset that I planned to go. I paid with cash instead of using our joint checking account because I didn't want him to know when and how frequently I was going. If he had inquired or expressed interest, it might have been different. Later I stopped therapy, and then at some point began with a new therapist. I did not share that I had a new T with my H. Honestly, he had ZERO interest in my life, and I didn't force it on him. Eventually when we were getting divorced, I told him how much therapy had helped me, and he didn't seem bummed out that he hadn't known all the details of who I was seeing, how often, etc. So I would have to say it caused no problems that he was not informed of my therapy. I do feel therapy is quite personal and I don't think the spouse has to know details. Emily, if you feel reluctant to tell your H at first, it is OK to respect that. Or maybe just a brief, "I've been feeling down lately and am going to see a counselor" would suffice. Maybe when you are more comfortable with therapy, you can share more with your H. You can have a chance to explore with your therapist why it bothers you for your H to know. That's what therapists are for! Good luck.