Well, I am still stuck in the middle. I need to make a decision. I want to avoid meat market-like bars. As an epileptic, I should not drink and there is too much temptation. I have heard that the gay bear community is friendly and may give that a try. Please do not confuse that with the leather community, which is not my scene at all. When it comes to being a bear, I have the body hair part right but am not big enough physically - which has its plusses and minuses. But, I have to make a decision because I am miserable.