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Originally Posted by Dylanzmama
My parents did this and it didn't look too appealing while growing up and watching them. My 9 year marriage is over as far as I'm concerned, yet I'm still here. We have one child, a son with autism...I think a divorce would really mess him up.
I guess it's a simple question of whether or not I should put my son's welfare over my potential happiness?
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The better question is, would you be putting your son's welfare at risk by staying together for his sake? I mean with the marriage "being over", it clearly says there is no love between you anymore or at least there's too much dischord. If that's the case, you have to ask yourself which is going to be worse, seeing his mom and dad staying together but hating each other or going their separate ways? It's not a decision to be taken lightly by any means, but it is a good question to ask. Would you take better care of your son if you were apart because you'd both be happier? I don't know but please consider this.
I have been apart from my wife for 14+ months and we are divorcing. I have two boys. They are with me and the older one, 13, is an aspie (hfa) I know that all they saw was fighting and two people that were not really together for many years, and I know that now they are happier than they were before. This is just my experience but i hope it helps!