oh wow what a story...it is cheating in my opinion.
I was involved in a similar story, but I was the other woman, not the wife. He is an IT tech also haha. This is so complicated.... what IS can tell from my experience is that it's very easy to fall in love with a persona, an online persona, don't know why yet, and it hurts a lot because of......everything. But it's definitely cheating. I am sorry.