I forget or don't realize when I'm supposed to ask people what they're thinking; I'm usually so busy thinking what I'm thinking and worrying about my own next step I forget the other person is "there." I think all conversation with another person is questions and questions mean they're (evil stepmother :-) trying to find where I'm weak/wrong and "get" me. It sure is complicated talking to other people; probably why I prefer online/writing. But it gets lonely if you don't let people "in" or go "out" of your own head. I think "good" boundaries don't just mean keeping people from taking advantage of you, but also being able to let people in so you can get to know them and they, you.