I have disscussed it many times and actually shortly after I posted this I talked with my therapist over the phone and told him what was going on. We went over a lot, and came up with some good ideas for if it happens again.

a lot of the issues come from I don't have a job right now I am not finical ly responsible for myself and my dependent personality disorder is thrown in the face of my family all the time. I want to take care of myself but it feels almost in grained into me that its hard for me to do.

and it get thrown back at me as threats when my family is up set saying if you don't stop what you are doing I will take this away from you and you don't have any money of your own so I can, and where would you be if I did.

but I did come back and apologize to her saying I should have phrased things differently and that I am going to use some distraction techniques for the rest of the night to give us some much needed space.
I don't expect things to be perfect between us this is just not realistic but things simply have to get better. If they get worse I might end up with out a home at all.