Living on Your Own
What Is Epilepsy
Staying Healthy
I get that your gf cannot drive, due to her disability. However, seriously, showering?! Where's the boundaries?! Is your gf in counseling?! I'd recommend a qualified therapist, perhaps her neurologist can recommend one!
33 years old, and having to live life like this?! OK, she has epilepsy! So don't many people. Many people, manage OK, on their own!
Lots of people have various neurological ailments, and manage, independently, just fine!!
She could look into something like LifeLine or one of those programs to have something to press, in an emergency, when taking a shower!
This, is most concerning. I can see why you are reaching out for help. But until, she recognizes, where to turn? I don't know what more you can do.
Now, this whole thing about 'spies', is there something that needs to be added to this story?