Edda, and shez, for me it was a matter of survival. I was so eaten up w/ hate and resentment, that I wasn't really living and it was driving me to death. I couldn't live like that anymore. I hope that neither of you have to come to that point, but like I said forgiveness is about you, not them.

My first ex-wife explained it best to me. She put it this way: I'll never forget what you did, but I have forgiven you. She lived w/ an unmedicated me, and that wasn't any fun for anyone.

I hope that you both can come to terms w/ the things in your life. It will make a big difference.

But no matter what, I'm glad you are here, and I want to thank you for that.

Jeffro