Couldn't the entire "risks" be avoided if you explain to them very early that the behavior is unacceptable and that their father has a drinking problem and that he will physically pay the price later in life. My children have an alcoholic father too. Their to young now for me to explain, but as soon as their able to I will tell them that although he is a drunk, he is still a good father for them and they can be influenced by him in other elements other then his drinking. I will explain to them...and I really think they will listen. Children know more then what we assume, as long as we guide them in options of what to believe, then they can set their own thoughts about alcoholism themselves. But then agian it would be completely different for an abused child...that I do not know. But in the situation of my children in will be simplier since he is a very productive worker and father...yet a drunk.