I agree that it must put a strain on any relationship to be together so much, at work, at play, and at home... complicated by the foreign culture and language problems.

The only thing that I don't like is that he is saying that it is all up to you to change. You are making decisions for your own well being, he has to be able to accept those decisions, because your well-being is essential for the relationship to work. Of course there must be some compromise when considering your decisions... but that means compromise on both ends... not him laying all the problems on you and asking you to change.

It may be harder to develop friends and interests there but if you are working on that it may help... hopefully he is doing the same. Having some sense of fitting in with the culture there, and having friends to talk to and places to go, things to do on your own for entertainment and stimulation maybe will take the pressure off of having to be everything to each other all the time.

Maybe you could work at the gym separately? I suppose you have little choice at work, and at being home together, but maybe excersicing separately will help motivate making some new friends or something.

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