It sounds like a nice gesture on his part... but if the argument and accusations began as soon as you got home does it seem like he planned on bringing that up all along? i.e. take you out for a nice evening and then make you feel guilty when you got home?

Again I'm just speculating as I don't see the actual situation... but it sounds like another method of just manipulating you. If so it is all part of ongoing abuse.

>> If he is so unhappy, why doesn't he go?

Maybe it has little to do with him being happy, but rather him having control over you. He keeps himself "unhappy" (or seemingly unhappy) to make you feel guilty. It may not be enough to have you there, he has to have you there and afraid to leave.

Don't let him pressure you into moving out. Move out if it seems to be the best thing for you to do for you. It is possible that he isn't really trying to pressure you to move out... only to make you feel guilty so that you will stay... if that is the case then if you moved out he might just move deeper into guilt, working even harder to make you feel guilty so that you will stay.

No matter what his intentions, don't let him decide what is best for you.

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