I know exactly how you feel and am also trying to overcome this distructive behavior. I may not be as vocally emotionaly abusive but rather struggle with having an emotional connection to MY kids. I am working to set up therapy sessions to try to open up and break down a wall I have built up from my childhood. Hoping this will help and gain control of it before they are emotionaly damaged too. Good luck. Let me know if you find anything thats helped.