Well for instance: last week my gf and I were moving the lounge chairs into the shade. We each took a side of one chair at a time. She kept exclaiming how much lighter the chairs were with 2 people carrying them. I wasn't surprised, but that's because I learned the lesson not too long ago. Maybe she was trying to impress it upon me, idk - I'm pretty dense when it comes to hints! But my point was - this should be how we feel about our family of origin - that they could help us bear a burden. If not, and if we have not learned it from friends, then reparenting could help us learn it from a t. They aren't such scary lessons really.