yes I think I can say they definitely screwed me up. mom was always angry and dad would blow up sometimes. they hated each other. now they are elderly and act like everything is fine, but I know what it did to me, being rejected and verbally abused, sometimes physical.
I have come to forgive them and love them despite feeling like my life got screwed up because they weren't there for me in a good way. holding bitterness towards them does nobody any good