Hi, I don't know if mine actually screwed me up ( I have made some dumb choices in life which probably screwed me up more) but they certainly didn't help. I will keep this short tho, my mother beat me because my father was violent to her. Now with my kids, I am determined to be the best parent i can be. I have gone to councillors, parenting classes and read a couple of books not that it helps when I feel enraged over something, but I have the clarity to turn away, to let my 3 and 4 year old (13 months between them) scream it out, to stamp their feet and chuck themselves over the floor because no is no. I have learnt to ask myself, am I just saying no because I'm being lazy, petty or does it really matter if they do that. My eldest son has been diagnosed with ODD ADHD with verbal and oral dspraxia, his behaviour was shocking and downright feral and most times risky to himself and others but he has changed with a lot of help from professionals and indirectly help me to change. So yes we can all change be it what age we are. Sometimes we need faith in ourselves and a bit of help from others.