Seriously, what is wrong with your mother? It's like she's living in a dream world? She's very heavy into denial. If she took sides with you against your dad, her whole world would come crashing down. My father was kind of in the same predicament. He was going to support my mother regardless. He like asked me, "Are you gonna take care of me if I get sick? She will. So shut up." He told me "they always knew" I would do this or that. Whatever.

Anyway, I don't mean to be taking your mother's side. I'm just saying, they had a habit of seeing things they decided on. She may never see things your way. But bringing her to therapy might give you an insight into how she sees things? When my t asked my mother, "hasn't hankster been a good daughter to you?" and my mother sat there like Jabba the Hutt and repeated, "daw-terr??" like it was a word she'd never heard before, everything suddenly became clear. My t didn't hear what I did, but it was enough for me.