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Originally Posted by JosieTheGirl
First of all... really? Everyone else thinks it's fine for a thirteen year old to "date"? (If that's what it's called at that point)
Also... at this point in existence, the typical 18 year old is not mature, nor is the typical 21 year-old... twenty three year olds are getting there and paths start to divulge there.
And before everyone starts to jump all over all that I am very aware that my current audience is anything but "typical" and so my observations o 's are less likely to apply.
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We can rip this to shreds talking in generalities about the ages where people typically become mature but I think that it varies. Back on the subject though don't you agree though that even taking into account the immaturity of 21 - 23 yr olds that the gap is smaller as you get older? A lot changes in the teen years.
And just as a side note, no I don't think dating at 13 is really acceptable. My son is 13 this year and there is no way he is ready for that. o.O
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And while 23-28 is less likely to have that gap, there will often (but not always) still be problems.
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I may not have been really clear on this but what i am saying is not a rule but a generality. of course there could be problems in that age gap but the gap, I am saying for those ages are most likely smaller than between 18 and 13 as there is more growth in this way going on between those ages. it tends to level off a bit as you get older. that's what I meant to say. Not advocating that it's ok at that age nor opposing it.
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A 23 year old might often have issues renting a car, and a 28 year old might actually have graduated med school at that point, already be interning and literally be making life and death decisions. An extreme example, but demonstrative of the possible life experiences available in five year's time, no?
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And I did use the word maturity and I emphasize this now. I've found 40 yr olds that aren't even as mature as some 25 yr olds and if you keep analyzing it you can find exceptions to every general rule.
I think all in all though 13 + 18 still in my mind remains kind of a big gap.