I agree completely on this. I am single in the sense that I am a single dad, the mother lives in a different state and we've been separated for over 14 months without any intention of reconciling.

I am in the process of getting the divorce but have not yet. Although there's a part of me taht would like to meet women and maybe have a relationship again, there is that, I am not divorced yet. so in reality I am legally still married.

I do not pursue women, although I do enjoy "looking" and imagining having a date or two, the thing that holds me back is that I would not want to keep the truth of my situation from her and I know that would keep many women from even looking twice at me, and this is justified.

i will say that I don't necessarily think that I'd be wrong to date, if someone were willing to date me, knowing all the details. I don't have a problem with that because I know the divorce is a 100% thing that is going to happen. I'm sure it won't happen, don't necessarily want it to yet since even in the best situation she accepted all of it, it entails a lot of complicated stuff I don't want to deal with.