no, it's not overlooking things and it's ok if there are some things we don't like. I'm not sure how to word it properly (way too tired today).

But like... ok. I am really stubborn. Normally this is considered a negative quality, and in fact quite a bit of the time it's a pain in the butt. But you know what? That normally negative trait has kept me alive many times. So I wouldn't trade it, and I am grateful that it's a part of me.

Another one is that I'm a picky eater. I hate this about myself, and I was made to feel absolutely horrible about it by my family growing up. To the extent that I am rather paranoid going to someone's house for dinner because I don't know what they'll do if I don't eat much of the meal. So once I got to university and had freedom, I started to experiment with more foods that I've never tasted before (like sushi, pad thai, curry, asparagus, whale, etc... all foods that my family never went near.). And you know what I learned? I'm actually NOT that picky, I just do not like the same bland and overcooked food that my family likes. So I learned that there was nothing wrong with me about that, and in fact I actually have a wide palette and will try lots of weird new foods at least once. So I turned that really negative self-view into a good one as I challenged my perception of it.

I'm also a bit TOO organized and routinebased (have had a lot of people make OCD-type comments to me) and can be a bit of a control freak. I look on it really negatively sometimes, but guess what? It makes running my class sooooo much easier and the students have a really consistent and productive year. So I wouldn't change it, even if it can be a pain in my personal life.

What I meant about twisting was more doing those things - finding the negative things and seeing if you can view them in a positive light. It can't be done about everything (for example, I hate that I can't take a compliment very well. I can't find a single positive thing about that) and I just have to accept that they're a part of me and still love who I am overall anyway. Because the other people that we love all have faults too.