Everyone lies at some time, many times. Not many saints among us. We are imperfect. That doesn't make us bad. Lying can be just about self-preservation. An extremely extreme example, consider how some Jewish people survived the Holocaust by passing as "Aryan" (hateful Nazi term), using false documents and altering their appearances. Lying, yes, purposeful, yes, vital to their survival, yes. A response to evil, absolutely. It makes those people heroes and survivors and righteous and awfully damned brave in my opinion.

Men? Not sure what you mean by most women not knowing what we say? I think lying is equal opportunity in any marriage, it shouldn't be about the lies, but about the ability to overlook, move on, and love deeply despite the flaws.