I like your list of what, ideally, a woman seeks out of a man. I wish that was more prevalent in my age group.

Sandman brings up a good point, I think, and I think using his logic the argument could be reversed on the opposite gender. Speaking for myself (though I've no firsthand experience in the regard), it's a perceived "failure" or, perhaps more aptly, a "defect" on our part if that "doesn't work," so to speak. We, I suppose, have certain expectations out of what women expect, and much of it is socially and culturally enforced. It's not per se true nor is it an entirely rational line of thought. It's not that we necessarily hold "it" in such high regard for ourselves. Rather, I think it's an anticipation of expectation that leads to such a focus.

My two cents, at any rate.