I also am dealing with anger since I was traumatized for a second time a few years ago. I had always been very calm and almost irrationally anger avoidant. Just speaking about it to my daughter tonight in fact. My tolerance was "too high" but now I get angry with little provocation and like you my husband receives the brunt of it.

I too am looking for ways to "derail" the anger. But I wanted you to know you are not alone.