I agree with all who have posted & I was especially moved by Simon's post. You will make some girl/woman very happy to be with you. Your sensitivity is refreshing & so rare.

My brother was a virgin until he was 40, when he got married. He was always kinda a "geek" & was very bright, as you sound stefano. He met his wife at a contra dance. He pursued his passions (engineering, has several patents), contra dancing, teaching at a local community college, book groups, swimming, etc. & that is very attractive to a woman. Keep your life full of interests & you'll meet people who share them & relationships can develop. It also helps to have a focus other than just trying to get to know someone when you are shy. You already have a topic you both are interested in to discuss.

For example, I have met many people playing tennis & several marriages & romances have started on the tennis court with couples playing mixed doubles.

I'm probably very rare as I married my high school sweetheart. We've been married for 32 years & he has put up with my mental illness & sometimes irrational behavior. He must be a saint cuz I wouldn't like to be married to me.--Suzy