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Originally Posted by WhiteClouds
Yes, there is a huge difference between the two. He was talking about the latter. He used it meaning the act of sex. I have been married 14 years and we never say that word. Or make love. We may say" I want some". Or "Gimmie"/Or no words just start. But my heavens why use such an ugly word. I curse often in sessions. Never those words. I look at people a certain way if they use those when discussing sex. So vulgar. Even if we are discussing sexual health within my marriage I never say those words. I don't say the p word. I called it my pocketbook.
I am in utter shock. Of all people. The self proclaimed gentleman cussing like that. Potty mouth!!
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Hmmm... OTOH maybe it's worth exploring why it's so hard to talk about sexuality or sexual parts in a more forthright manner. Especially with respect to your feelings about upcoming surgery on said parts. That doesn't mean he should cast you as prudish (or shame you for it which I sort of think he was doing.) But why is it hard for you to use more direct language than "pocketbook"? Even within your marriage?
What does vulgar mean to you and how does that impact your ability to feel comfortable with you sexuality?
Therapy is weird like that though. I'm pretty good with talking openly about sex with my partner or kids and have even done a lot of sexuality education with teens and young adults answering very explicit questions without squirming. But I find it mortifying to talk in any detail about sex or even say "vagina" for eg in T.