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Originally Posted by boredporcupine
I realized that I said reparenting could be risky but I never said what I thought the risk was.
The risk has to do with transference and enactments. Plenty of people get those anyway, but when the T is deliberately stepping into the role of parent, it can increase the intensity of the transferential situation. This can bring out a lot of things such as very strong dependent feelings, trauma memories, anger/rage, power struggles, etc. just depending on the individual. Then if the T doesn't know how to handle those, it could cause the therapy to fall apart in possibly dramatic ways. That is a risk of any kind of therapy where there is a close supportive relationship but you might hope with someone who is doing the reparenting deliberately, that they might have more of a clue how to handle what comes up. Still, this clearly isn't always the case...
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And that is exactly what the risk is for me. Even ones who are trained in the method aren't guaranteed to do it well. And you can't tell how well or badly it will work until you're smack bang in the middle it all. And the pay offs are huge but so are the dangers. The transferential rage and dependency and trauma memories all surged forward with my exT and i got dumped by her in the end. I do not care to repeat that experience ever again.