Thanks for your response guys.
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Originally Posted by lynn P.
Welcome to PC hppd.  I realize your case isn't the typical kind of PE due the other disorders. I'll leave you a couple links and you can sift through what might be helpful to you. One thing you should practice a few times daily are Kegel Exercises and delaying ejaculation - there are methods you can try for that. Hope this gets better for you soon. |
Cheers for the links, I will look through. As mentioned I have practice delayed ejaculation for a while and have got good at it. I could do Kegels, I used to for a while, but I really believe this problem needs to be solved from the top down, it's a (psycho)neurological issue.. just building up muscles in the penis isn't solving the conditioned response of sexual hyper-arousal on being close to/thinking about a woman.. that's what I'd like to resolve.
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Originally Posted by MotownJohnny
You mentioned "leaking semen" with your first girlfriend. It could be "pre-cum" a natural lubricant some guys, not all (and some women) produce. Is it possible that in and of itself psychologically made you feel you had PE problems, and it went from there due to performance anxiety?
Just a thought. Best of luck to you, I'm sure that would be a very frustrating problem. Maybe a sex therapist could help, too.
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Yes I am sure that's what it is (pre-cum). Thanks for your analysis, could be, but I don't think that is the case, because I had three years of sex where I was able to cum when I wanted, hours if I wanted to. All the while sometimes/most of the time this leak would be there.. I just accepted it. As mentioned, I don't really have performance anxiety.
I will stress why I do not believe my case is an (conscious) anxiety problem. The response can be so rapid that conscious anxiety doesn't have time to process before the arousal of the penis. I mean, for example, when I am happily day-dreaming about a girl I like, and then I realise my penis is aroused.. where is the anxiety? There's certainly not any conscious anxiety as with many PE cases i.e. I am trying to distinguish that I don't have performance anxiety in the sense that things start happening with a girl and my brain's thinking 'you're gonna cum, you're gonna cum' and then you self fulfill your anxiety, it's not like that.
I accept that the anxiety circuit might be involved involuntary/unconsciously. This would make sense because HPPD involves this circuitry.