But that's my point fiddler. You shouldn't be changing your values THAT much by each circumstance. Yes, there are times when allowances need to be made. But you should stick by values whenever you can. You can't live justifying every bad thing you do, and claim you are a good person who lives by their morals and ethics. And that seems to be how most people are. Just because you have interest in another man's wife does not mean you then have the right to pursue her. This is what makes me ask if there is anybody else that is genuine and honest, and not a major hypocrite.