So I was away for a business trip for about a month and there I found a woman whom I was really fond of. Long story short, at first I sort of admired her from afar, then we went out with other colleague and got along well which led to meeting alone and chatting for long periods and again we seemed to be getting along very well. During this time she seemed to be sending signal that she was interested, at least interested enough to continue chatting and seeing each other. Anyway, I didn’t really make a move (ie no attemps to kiss her or anything) because I wanted to be sure I wasn’t misreading things since she is a work colleague and I didn’t want to make things weird by acting too soon. Anyway we started texting quite a bit and they were friendly. I noticed that the trip was coming to a close (we are generally pretty far apart) so I tried to get her to come out with me again to which she never said no but always had an excuse. The problem is that the excuses made sense and her texts were friendly and went back and forth. Finally I physically saw her and she retreated and gathered up a coworker to walk with her and walked by me with her head down and didn’t reply to my “hello”. So I texted her something about how I was sorry to misreading signals and making her uncomfortable to which she replied that she wasn’t used to attention. Later I ran into her again standing with another coworker who asked her if she wanted him to stay (I have good ears) and she said it was alright. I had every intention of getting to the bottom of this but could only manage some stupid small talk before I got called off for work. So it was almost time to leave so I figured I’d text another apology for making her uncomfortable and said something about how I thought she was awesome and wished her luck so I receive a text from her saying that she was used to being invisible and wished me luck as well. However, I really wanted to clear the air on this one so I texted her at the airport and said she could come and chat if she got bored so as I was waiting in airport she walked by and told the other two colleges she was with that “he’s in here” or something to that effect and walked off (I decided not to look up from pretending to be on my smart phone). Anyway she walked past me as she was boarding the plane and very obviously looked the other way.
Anyway, I find myself perplexed as to how this happened. For one, the whole thing was within the space of a week. I’ve been rejected before but they either say they don’t want to go out or stop texting. No one has ever treated me like a stalker before, the whole thing was really really humiliating and embarrassing. The worse part is that I was completely blindsided by it, I thought she was enjoying the communication, meanwhile she was clearly telling everyone that I was harassing her or something but even when I saw what was going on she still didn’t exactly tell me off.. what in the world is “I’m not used to attention” or “I’m used to being invisible” supposed to mean?