When my T was out for her mother's funeral, she had a colleague on call for her. This coincided with a really rough time for me (some of which was, admittedly, the unpredictable schedule my T and I had been having since her mom was in the hospital, but also things going on in my life). She gave me the name of the colleague covering for her if I needed to talk on the phone. I did end up calling her because I was hurting/struggling. I wasn't suicidal or anything, but just in pain. So we started talking and she asked me if I was suicidal--I get that this is normal even though I said nothing of the sort. But then she asked me if I was homicidal!!!??? This really flipped me out because while I have self-harmed, attempted suicide, and had suicidal thoughts I have NEVER wanted to harm another person. I hung up shortly after. I told this colleague to let me tell my T what we'd talked about. So I did and said how confusing and upsetting this was for me. Two weeks later they had a memorial service for T's mom out of state and even though this colleague was on call for her, she gave me the name/number of another colleague should I need it. I did and talking to this person was much better. Long story short, see if there is another colleague as I can understand how one thing can throw someone off so that it's not safe talking w/ them.