I have a male friend that I've known for almost 4 years. When I met him I had recently separated from my abusive husband and did not want any kind of relationship. My friend says he never wants to have a relationship or get married again, so we've just been friends all this time. Yes, men and women can be friends only. We go for coffee, go grocery shopping, go to the book store, and other places like that.
He's very highly sexed and I know he has women here and in other cities that he sees for sex only. He says it's a mutual thing, no strings, and he says they seem to be all ok with it. I can't judge that because I've never met the other women. I told him from day one that I'm not ok with that and he understands perfectly. The other thing is, he has a massive porn addiction, and he's collected 100's, maybe 1000's of porn DVD's. He also knows that I'm not ok with porn, and so we just go shopping or for coffee.
He's very intelligent, well read, and has a great sense of humour. He's a lot of fun to be with, and we have a great time just talking and joking around. He travels with his job, and I only see him 2-3 times a month.
From what I've seen of him, I would say that he's not bipolar. He has been depressed lately, but he's in a very tight job market, he's 55 years old, and he's afraid that his employer will force him out before he's financially ready to retire. He also gambles. So I think that my friend may have an addiction issue and not bp or clinical depression. So porn addictions can be totally unrelated to bp or depression. At least I would say so, from how my friend appears to me.