How do you stop the spread of depression through your whole family. I am very depressed at the moment and I try to pretend that everything is okay but it's fake, it's forced and transparent. I dont want my depression ruining my young kids life. My fear is that they will grow up and think it is normal to be depressed, because somebody said to me that it can be learned behaviour. If you grow up in a household where depression is evident, you will grow up just like that.