I think some professional assistance is necessary to help you find balance and some sense of self reliance. It is always scary when a support system is breaking down and you do not know where to turn but it sounds like both you and your mom need help independent of each other. I am not sure where you live, so I do not know specifically which services might be available to help you but make some calls to local government, health, and financial services to seek some professional assistance.

We, at PsychCentral, can be here for peer support when you feel stresses and need some emotional support through your struggles, but, first you need the professionals to help you get started on some sense of independence and self support.