I would recommend the book I Hate You, Don't Leave Me. It really helped me. As far as my daily life is concerned, my biggest issue is my mood shifts and the inability to regulate my emotions. I have gotten some good treatment over the past 2 years and I am much better at that than I used to be. My BPD does not affect all my relationships. One of the things that I learned from the book is that we are not borderline is all situations. What I have found is that the closer I am to someone the more likely my borderline tendencies are to show. I hope now that you have your diagnosis you will be able to get the help you need. And educate yourself about your disorder. Anything by Marsha Linehan is a good place to start. She developed a treatment called DBT and is borderline herself. I truly believe that when I began to learn about the disorder for myself is when I truly began to get better. Hope this helps.