Neither. I showed him.

I mean, sure, I told him things, usually by writing them down. Sometimes I'd say something and he'd ask a question.

Mainly though, I showed him. In my reactions to what he said, my acting out, my body language, my repeated dissociation, my inability to attach to him without repeatedly losing the image of him as a good-enough therapist, my trust issues, my tantrums. Therapy is like pouring water over a roof and seeing where it leaks. Your wounds show up, sooner or later. I've told him details, but he can see all my wounds just from what happens in the relationship.