At my first session my T asked a few things about family. It led in a conversation where I explained that my family isn't exactly the greatest. He asked if maybe we should work towards a reconilation or improving things with my family. I didn't say anything then, but I nearly panicked.

The next week I actually told him that he'd hit a trigger (and since then I've admitted that it has made it even harder to try to trust him) because it felt like it was being implied that I didn't try hard enough, or that I'm exagerating things, or that the rift in the relationship is my fault. Which is what I feel a lot of the time anyway, although I logically know that I have put a LOT more effort in than I should have ever had to.

I don't blame him for it, although it does make it hard to trust. How was he to know? Since then, we've talked more about it on and off, and he's brought things up in relation to other things we talk about. He's verbalizing all the connections (that I've mostly already made for myself), and since he's verbalizing it without me doing it, it makes me feel a bit more validated and like he is learning how to understand me better.