My mother was verbally and physically abusive to me growing up. i won't go into all the horriblr details but she tried to abandon me once when i was 7, threw me out of the house for good when I was 20 (after her alcoholic boyfriend hit on me) and has generally treated me like garbage my entire life. At 24, I moved out of the state but she kept in contact mainly about everything SHE needed and everything I was supposed to do for HER (including paying her mortgage). At 26, I had enough, changed my number blocked her emails and told her to stop contacting me. About a year later I moved for work, and thought i was free until she decided to hire someone to find my address and surprised me with a letter stating that she never did anything wrong, etc. etc. I wrote back that i wanted NO contact with her and any future attempts at contact would lead to my gettong a restraining order. Fast forward another 3 years and I've completed a grad program and landed a good job which she heard about so of course she wabts money and is now trying to find me again. She tried to friend my cousin(whom she hasn't seen in 20 years) on facebook just so she could get info on me. My cousin refused the request and I know it's only a matter of time before she finds my address again if she hasn't already.

From the research I've done I can call my local PD if she shows up at my door and can take any mailings to them. Until that happens though it doesn't appear I have any grounds for a restraining order. For all I know she's driving by my house as I speak. I don't believe in guns but am thinking that I should get one for my own protection. She is REALLY unstable and one of her exes had assault charges filed against her in the past. I can't put past her to have some crazy plan to kill me and make it look like an accident as horrible as that sounds.

I really am afraid and of course this whole thing brings up the trauma and ptsd is there anything else I can do to get her to leave me alone already?.