Thanks, but this is such a pattern that I don't even get offended anymore. No, I do not bombard him with texts or any kind of messaging. I do tend to send out signals and then disappear, and I can understand how annoying it must be after a while. I am NOT exonerating what he's done to me in any way at all, and everything I wrote in that text is true and has been said a zillion times before. He's often offered me times and I have simply not responded. I know he's telling me that I need to either confront the situation with him or not...we have a very long history and know each other very well - so given that context- yes, he is a jerk -no, his response was neither unusual or entirely unmerited, harsh as it sounds. Thank you so much for the support. It has helped tremendously.