I was just repeating HT's question back, at him, to answer it, the way I did.

Hence, my suggestion about looking for a new living arrangement, since her emotional state is only going to get worse.

But, HT, did say they get along, great, and he wished she'd change and meet his communicated requirements for change, in order to be with him. Though, she clearly doesn't want to change as she watches the man, she either feels she is in love with or thought she was in love with, make phone calls, go on dates, go to hotels and 'dvd rooms' with other women.

Hmmm, knowing, that about a former lover, would I ever want to embrace the idea of getting back together? Dunno. The thought of all the other women, he's touched, while in 'limbo' of being apart, while living together, would get under my skin. Don't know, if I'd ever want to be intimate again, though some people forgive and look past that, I'd just personally wonder.