In my opinion spooning is not always sexual and I would not see a problem with an adult (friend or relative) spooning a young child. I see that as caring and cuddling and in no way sexual. When the child gets over about the age of 10 or so I can see that being inappropriate but certainly not for a younger child! I didnt grow up in a cuddly family at all but my partner did - and seeing how loving and caring they all are, proves to me that it is a positive thing.

As for bringing up past memories, why go looking for something that might not even be there? Why put yourself through that and possibly plant false memories? I do not understand.