I hear you Monty girl. My T use to encourage me to call the on call person but I had enough trouble calling my own T when I needed to, nevermind someone I don't know. I had a "relationship" with another T in my T's group, we talked a little bit in passing before my T would arrive or whenever and once even had a meaningful conversation so my T would encourage me to talk to her if I needed to when she was away but I couldn't do that.