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Originally Posted by Early human
I finally decided that I either wanted to 'make out' with my T through out our sessions (which she would not do of course) or I wanted her to stop hugging me. Since she started hugging me I have obsessing about her between sessions wondering what she 'thinks' about me. The hugs derailed me and I was no longer to keep my transference at bay. So, I am really interested in your opinions as to weather the type of hugs that I described are inherently wrong, poor judgement, etc. It caused an awful outcome for me; my T angrily fired me and I am confused and in a horrible depression
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Early Human,
I don't think it's inherently wrong to hug, but perhaps it was poor judgement on her part. I find it interesting that you say she fired you. You can fire her, but she cannot "fire" you unless you have done something abhorrent. If she was smart about it, she would have backed off, apologized for misreading your feelings, and proceeded to talk about those feelings in your sessions. I have been obsessively in love with my T for over five years, and we have talked about it profusely. We have never touched in any way, not even a handshake. She doesn't smile at me for fear that I might confuse kindness for affection.