Ok, so this will probably be a bit confusing but also before you keep reading, please don't Judge me or my Uncle...

Here's the story... it all started 6-7 years ago when I was out visiting him and my Aunt (yes they're married)... He was wearing shorts and I was playing with my cell phone that I had at the time (it had one of those pull out antenna's) so I was tracing lines all along his thigh.. well one thing lead to another and it ended with him performing oral on me. I was young and stupid at the time so I told my doctor and asked him to tell my mom and so my mom found out (my aunt is her sister).. well that caused a huge problem and everybody stopped talking for a few years. Well, a few years ago everyone started talking again and this past summer i decided to go out and visit my Aunt and Uncle again (hoping that I was forgiven - by both of them).. well I was and I ended up talking to my Aunt explaining that everything that had happened was my fault and I hoped that she and my Uncle could work through this and get back to 'normal'.. whatever normal is.

Anyways, while I was out there this time - "stuff" happened again.. I performed oral on him, and jacked him off, and he fingered me etc...anyway, im back at my home now and so now we have this secret, again.. and this time I'm not going to say anything.. but my question I guess, is... he gave me his work # and email so we could keep in contact.. and we've set up a day/time every week for me to call him... He keeps saying he loves my aunt and wants to work things out with her, and he "belongs" to her...

I know both of us are vulnerable, have feelings of not being wanted, loved, needed, cared for etc... so yes we can take care of some of those feelings if even temporarily... we both have physical needs as well that aren't being satisfied by anyone other than ourselves... so yes i guess it is bound to happen but, would you guys consider it cheating still now that we are talking on the phone? i read some other forums where people consider anything their spouse feels needs to be hidden from them as cheating... but do you guys think we have anything more than just an Uncle/Niece relationship?? *besides the physical stuff that happened while we were together*... is he cheating on her with me by just having these 'secret' conversations?? does he love me more than just a Niece? do i love him as more than an Uncle?

i dunno why im even writing this.. sigh - i guess im looking for opinions and comments and if anyone has been in a similar situation of being "the other woman"... maybe im looking for someone to talk to or email or whatever and discuss everything? i dunno... i'll leave this open for any comments etc..