I agree with you that in a perfect world, genitals really shouldn't be so important. I think bisexuality is beautiful in that regard.

But... I really don't like vagina. Like I would rather be celibate than do anything physically intimate with another woman's vagina. Hell, there is a long list of painful things I'd rather do than deal with another woman's vagina.

But it is more than just having a general disgust for female genitals. I also don't like women. I've never met a woman who takes my breath away like a man can. I've met great women but I never see them as more than just people I could be friends with. I am just hard wired to want to be with a man on an emotional level.

There is more to it than just gender though. I'm not attracted to every man just as I'm sure lesbians aren't attracted to every woman. The men I'm attracted to are far and few between. Some of the ones I am attracted to aren't necessarily great people. Sometimes, I'll be wildly attracted to a total d-bag because of whatever reason. I wouldn't necessarily date him, but I'm still physically attracted.

I think human sexuality is something very complicated but probably genetic in nature. My genetic code won't allow me to see women in a sexual way. Some women can't see men in a sexual way and some women can see both. It is a little sad actually because I'm sure that there are many great aspects of being with a woman that I'll never be able to experience because I literally don't even notice them on even a casual level.

I really consider sexuality to be like a food preference to be honest. I hate pickles. Many people love them, but I just despise them. I could try to explain why I hate pickles to a pickle lover, but they wouldn't really be able to understand because enjoying that particular food is as natural to them as hating it is to me. I'm sure there are many fantastic dishes that feature pickles, but I'm never going to be able to appreciate them because I just can't stand that food.