Pay attention to others feedback. What he said was harsh! I hear him shaming you. Let others validate this for you.

I get how you could not feel offended, or even feel as if you might be deserving of it - only b/c I have been there. One time exT told me that "therapy had ended a long time ago and I should move onward". That was 2 months after he decided we would be friends - and that was his "friendly" response to me just asking him to clarify his complete lack of ethics/confusing behavior. His responses would just make me feel even more awful. And I accepted way too much responsibility for it all.

It's that power-entrapment, the all-knowing father figure turned abusive. Healthy therapists don't shame. Boundaries, yes - but he killed those a long time ago.

A question I ask myself that may be of help - what steps can you take to help you take back your power?