I agree with the others who answered. Being gay makes you ... gay. It's biology. It has nothing to do with your "value" as a human being. That comes from the kind of man you are and how you live your life.

It is tragic that in the past, being gay was considered wrong, criminal even. Equally horrible things were thought of African Americans, Asians, Jews, Native Americans. We are finally becoming accepting as a society of GLBT folks just as we did with other groups. Not a moment to soon.

My take on your situation: ignore the haters, they are increasingly marginalized. Love yourself for who you are. Date, marry, have kids, whatever makes you happy. Love who you love without guilt or shame or reservation. There may be organizations that can help you, such as maybe PFLAG or the Triangle Foundation. Have an awesome life and you will look back with disbelief and whimsy on how you feel now.