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Sep 09, 2013, 06:36 PM
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Member Since: Aug 2013
Location: Florida
Posts: 31
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Originally Posted by persephoneves
Just wondering, are you keeping in touch with your son, by email or skype? Can he come to visit you in Florida? Teens generally aren't particulary good at reaching out or making efforts. Atleast I wasn't, as soon as I could, I found the furthest away university on the other side of the country and never moved closer than 3,000 miles, now I'm even further! But, I just wanted my own life I guess and I felt like she had moved on with hers (she remarried as well when I was 18). Also, I was sent away to a lock-in treatment center for a year when I was 14 andI think I was still really bitter and angry about that. But, since we have had some great chats and she has opened up to me about her life and told me details and now I've realized that she's a real person and I can talk to her and I am even considering moving closer to her. I know other mothers too who have given up their children to live with friends and family members for various reasons and it just takes time..My advice is just to keep the lines of communication open and let him know you're there and he is loved and don't forget to take care of yourself mama!
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I find this very interesting. I did not put my son in the situation at 14, but it all "just happened" and I know he felt as tho I moved on with my own life. The dang woman told him that, He told me allot of what she did and said. It killed me to hear that. She would talk him out of being with me when I finally scraped myself up off the sidewalk and got back on my feet.
I do talk to him btw on Facebook. And often leave him messages such as "I love you" On his pages. And the good thing is he'll leave that same message back. But we don't communicate well, and we're no where near as close as we used to be. I KNOW he's angry, but what hurts is that I can't do anything to convince him that he's wrong about how he feels. I've spent five years trying to get him to move back in with me. I believe she had him emancipated, but told others she adopted him. (Which is illegal being I never signed anything or heard of anything like that going on) I kept CONSTANT contact with him even when I was homeless. I always had a phone even if I had to sell my foodstamps to keep one turned on. I'm dealing with this, little by little, it all starts to fade away. I can't do anything about it, I just have to pray and hope that one day he will come around. He know's where I live, I can't afford to visit him, and if I did, I would have no place but a hotel to go to, and he wouldn't stay long. But one thing I found out, boys don't stay attached to their moms like girls do. But thanks so much for that information. I surely appreciate it.. it's a great comparison and helped me out tons.. thanks again ..
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