Reading these responses has been a difficult but eye opening experience. I will continue to talk about it to my therapist equipped with the ideas that I have learned here; thank you. Walking into the solution armed with these ideas about what my part in the situation seems easy enough. However, I don't know if I can bring it up to her in a way that i feel comfortable.

The night she told me and the following day, I was suicidally depressed and sick to my stomach. I seriously couldn't stand up without nearly throwing up. I just walked and walked and walked and walked. I gave her the impression that I moved past it. I don't know how to encourage her to continue therapy without bringing it all up again.