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Originally Posted by Mastodon
When T once said that he believes that I expect him to react like my father would have, I said outright: "That's textbook transference, right?" Upon which he shrugged and said "So &@#€ what?" By which he meant that the terminology is of course important, but it doesn't actually matter that it is transference, because it manifests differently in different people and the relevant thing is what is actually going on with me.
He's not all that Freudian in his outlook. He is psychodynamic so obviously Freud is around somewhere, but his main principle is that theoretical frameworks are good servants but poor masters. With which I agree.
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My T seems to have the same philosophical perspective. However, my T has used the word transference on several occasions. She only did this after I started experiencing these feelings and she knew I wanted to understand them on an intellectual level. (Which, is my most valued defense mechanism). She never discounted my feelings. I've since picked the process apart and it helps to understand intellectually but it might also hinder my therapy in sometimes because I've dissociated my feelings in some ways. All I know is that this is the only way I feel I can do it and I'm so blessed to have a T that is so kind and patient with my "two steps forward/one step back" progress. How could you not have transference for a T so attuned?