My advise would be not to start chatting with people, male or female, online, if there is no trust in the relationship...he likely has spyware on the computer and will accuse you of an online affair...if you truly need some intervention...contact your areas domestic abuse center....even if there is no physical abuse...being scrutinized with trustworthiness is an abuse in itself.....there are many forms abuse takes place...these people can give you a compassionate ear...resource info and a direction....do not get involved with people online who may quickly become attached to you because of their own issues...the internet is one big dumping ground...don't get lost in it...you owe your kids an opportunity for them to have a healthy uncluttered and unbothered mind...no child should go to bed at night wondering what is going to happen next with their moms boyfriend....that guy could not be giving you one thing that would benefit your kids more than a mom who was happy and felt good about herself....and gave fully to her kids needs without the fussy narcissistic rantings of a jealous man.....